I recently said to a good friend of mine that I was living my life more completely than I had been in years. She asked, “What changed?” and before I knew it I was saying these words, “I think since having the miscarriage (December 2018) something shifted, and I’ve stepped back into my life for the first time in more than a decade. It’s like that death made me ready to live my life again.”
Whoa. We were both surprised by my words. Luckily she’s used to me making proclamations that take us both by surprise so there was no awkward silence followed by a hasty excuse. No, we had an even longer and deeper conversation. I’m grateful for friends like her. But wow, I hadn’t even thought those words before let alone been prepared to say them.
We got talking about Unintended Consequences. I told her this miscarriage carried with it an unintended consequence in that I feel like I’ve been Rip Van Winkle’d from a long sleep and now I’m feeling my life at a depth I thought I’d only imagined before. I’ve been thinking a lot about unintended consequences. The idea got into my head after reading about the upcoming TEDx event here in Philadelphia, and the theme is Unintended Consequences. Great theme, right?
So I started thinking about Unintended Consequences in my own life. I’ve spoken and written at length about the miscarriage, but haven’t documented the aftermath in a specific way. It’s led to things that you might not imagine. In fact, the Unintended Consequences of the very bizarre and painful events from last December have spilled into all aspects of my life: a new direction for my business, deeper connection with my partner & children, and a reconnection to my intuition. HUGE things. I wake up and start my life differently every day than I did just three months ago. That’s a powerful thing; that one event can have a ripple effect on a life speaks so deeply to me, and I’m left pondering how interconnected the events of our lives are and how connected we are to each other.
How many of us have had life-altering experiences as a result of an unintended consequence? No really, how many have? I’d love to know. Leave me a message in the comments.